There, I've said it. My wedding day was not the best day of my life.
It's nothing against the ceremony, or the reception. They were lovely. Sure the flower girl and ring bearer chased each other around the church, the ice cream cake was too frozen solid to cut, and everyone left for the reception site without giving us a ride, but all of those things are just fun stories to tell!
Nothing bad happened that day, and yet I firmly believe it wasn't the best day of my life.
Why did that phrase come about anyway? Its such a sad sentiment to think about. I was married at age 20. That would be an awfully early time to peak, don't you think? So why does everyone call weddings "The happiest day of my life."
I believe that if you are marrying the right person, the one who loves you unconditionally, who inspires you to do so in return, and who takes you on spontaneous adventures, that there will be many, many better days to come. Weddings are stressful. You can hire the best vendors, and have a crowd of somehow not crazy family present, but it's still a day full of worry that you could have forgotten something, and a million other little things on your mind. And that's okay. But chances are this big, expensive party you're planning involves copious amounts of time with guests who you don't know all that well, and not a whole lot of time with the love of your life. It's a nice day, even a great day, sure, but shouldn't the title of "best" be awarded once a few more nominations have been added?
Best days are spontaneous. They're waking up on a day neither of you have to work and saying, "Let's do something fun today." They're date nights where he surprises you by going to your favorite restaurant, that he's not all that crazy about. They're birthdays where you find yourself incredibly blessed with the thoughtful gestures of those you love. Maybe I'm a little weird, but I'm glad I didn't stop having "best days" at age 20.
Once you've gotten past that day, and onto the marriage, I hope that you'll have a lifetime of "best days", each surpassing the last in amazingness, doing whatever thing it is that ya'll find the most fun. Hiking, yard saleing, playing board games, going to concerts, going to sporting events, going to see a movie snuggling up on the couch with a bowl of popcorn and watching a movie at home - just adventuring together. Of course there will be rough days, but hopefully you will get through those together, and come out the other side closer than ever. Because when you're trying to keep your cool, and nothing seems to be going right, I hope you'll think of those "best days" and remember why it's all worth it in the end.
There, I've said it. My wedding day was not the best day of my life, and I hope one day you will say the same.